Spoon Theory For Fibromyalgia: How To Manage Energy Levels


Ben Ahrens, HHP


Published on

December 7, 2023


Updated on

January 17, 2024

Medically Reviewed by

Ben Ahrens, HHP


Living with a chronic illness like fibromyalgia can be a challenging journey, often accompanied by chronic pain, a limited amount of energy, and the need for effective management strategies. In this post, we will explore the framework called the Spoon Theory, developed by Christine Miserandino, the founder of butyoudontlooksick.com.

The Spoon Theory has become a significant tool for people with fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS), and other chronic illnesses to express their experiences, manage their energy levels, and navigate daily activities. Additionally, we’ll see how re-origin’s evidence-based neuroplasticity program is helping people with a wide range of chronic conditions to better manage and increase their energy levels over time.

This is where things get hopeful, so stick around…

Understanding The Spoon Theory

The Spoon Theory, coined by Christine Miserandino, is a metaphor that effectively describes the limited energy levels experienced by someone with chronic illnesses. Miserandino, who herself lives with lupus and fibromyalgia, created the Spoon Theory to help healthy people understand the impact of chronic illness on daily life. On her website, butyoudontlooksick.com, she shared her experiences, aiming to bridge the gap between the healthy and chronically ill communities.

Exploring the Spoon Theory and Fibromyalgia

Fibromyalgia, a chronic condition characterized by widespread pain and fatigue, often leaves individuals with limited energy reserves. According to the theory, people with fibromyalgia, affectionately known as “spoonies,” have a restricted number of “spoons” or energy units available to them each day. The Spoon Theory resonates with so-called spoonies as it accurately represents their daily struggles and the energy management required to complete tasks.

Managing Energy Levels with the Spoon Theory

The Spoon Theory works by assigning a specific number of spoons to each activity, symbolizing the amount of energy it requires. When a person with fibromyalgia wakes up, for example, they have a predetermined number of spoons for the day. Every task they undertake, whether it’s cooking, cleaning, or socializing, consumes spoons. Once all the spoons are used up, their energy is depleted, often resulting in increased pain and fatigue. The Spoon Theory helps you make informed choices about how you allocate limited energy (determining if you have enough spoons for an activity) and prioritize your activities.

The Benefits of the Spoon Theory for Fibromyalgia Patients

Since its inception in 2003 on Christine’s blog, many chronic illness sufferers have found the theory to be immensely helpful in a handful of ways, some of which include:

Validation of Invisible Illness

Fibromyalgia is often misunderstood because its symptoms are not visible to others. The Spoon Theory provides a tangible explanation for this “invisible illness,” promoting understanding and empathy among loved ones and the general public.

Mental Health and Self-Care

The Spoon Theory highlights the importance of mental health in managing chronic conditions. It encourages individuals to prioritize self-care, make conscious decisions about their energy expenditure, and avoid overexertion. It also serves as validation that the condition is real and not your fault (you didn’t cause it!), so there’s no need to beat yourself up mentally for feeling the way you do. Self-compassion and self-care go a long way when it comes to managing your energy levels.

Effective Communication

Using the Spoon Theory, patients can effectively communicate their current limitations and energy levels (how many spoons they have to use) to their loved ones and healthcare providers. This enhanced communication fosters more support, empathy and collaboration in managing the condition.

Pain Management and Pacing Daily Activities

By understanding their limited number of spoons, individuals with fibromyalgia can effectively pace themselves and prioritize activities based on how many spoons they have. This approach helps manage pain levels and maintain a better quality of life.

Increasing Fibromyalgia Awareness through the Spoon Theory

The Spoon Theory has played a significant role in raising awareness of fibromyalgia and other chronic conditions like Lyme disease. Organizations like the Cleveland Clinic and passionate advocates have utilized the Spoon Theory to educate the public about fibromyalgia, its impact on daily life, and the need for support and understanding.

Gathering More Spoons With The re-origin Brain Retraining Program

At re-origin, we believe that you do not need to only “manage” your condition but can actually improve it and increase your levels of energy over time using self-directed neuroplasticity. Our program is based on decades of research and clinically validated approaches such as pain and symptom reprocessing; gradual exposure for systematic desensitization; mood elevation for better self-regulation; and building back capacity with the science of small wins.

Moreover, our program also gives you access to an entire community of super-powered self-healers who truly understand what you’re going through and are all taking steps together to gather more spoons and increase their energy and vitality en route back to health. You don’t need to stay stuck in a loop of endless symptom management. Let us show you how to address the sources and break free from the cycle of chronic illness and fatigue. Check out our brain retraining program to learn more.




Ben Ahrens, HHP