About eight years ago, I found myself in a challenging situation. I’d been bed-bound for about three years with chronic Lyme disease and did years of different treatments, every kind of supplement, and even antidepressants – many of which had moderate to severe side effects.
It took years of trial and error and the infection did eventually subside. But for the years that followed, I found myself stuck in this negative loop; this vicious cycle of chronic fatigue, overwhelm, anxiety, burnout, and depression – where every time I tried to really enter back into full life – back into full-time work and social circumstances, I just found that I would get a re-triggering of all of these old symptoms, and it was never clear as to why.
If you are in the same boat and searching for a way forward with CFS, you are not alone — and you are not stuck. Over the years, we’ve supported thousands of people in recovering from complex chronic conditions such as chronic fatigue, chronic pain, anxiety, and depression using a self-directed neuroplasticity-based approach.
Understanding how the brain can change and heal is often a key turning point for people who feel trapped in recurring symptoms. If you’re ready to move toward healing and reclaim your life, you can explore the re-origin program here
Is it “all in my head”?
When I would go back to the doctors, it seemed as though I had recovered. Yet my body continued reacting as though the original threat was still present, despite the infection having resolved.
I turned to meditation and various mind–body therapies, and while these practices provided temporary relief, the symptoms would return as soon as I re-entered daily life. It became clear that something deeper was maintaining the pattern, beyond conscious relaxation alone.
I also began exploring brain plasticity book recommendations and practical brain changes itself exercises, which helped me understand why old patterns kept resurfacing. Many experts suggest that some of the best books to rewire your brain can support this kind of recovery journey.
Feeling Stuck
Week after week, month after month, I would make social plans to see friends, and invariably I would become overwhelmed, exhausted, symptomatic, and have to cancel, only to feel worse about myself and the situation.
It wasn’t until I turned my attention toward the brain and read books like Norman Doidge’s “The Brain that Changes Itself,” that I learned that those weights that I was carrying were actually old wiring and obsolete programming in my limbic system, which is a region of the brain.
Read more: The Top 10 Must-Read Neuroplasticity Books for Retraining Your Brain
A New Hope
As it turns out, if you’ve experienced a period of long term stress and that combines with a certain trigger, (in my case, a bacterial infection, for you, it might have been a stressful life event, trauma, or another kind of illness or even a physical injury) – these two things can actually couple together to create an overactive stress response, which at the time of infection, illness or injury is necessary for healing. But after the physical problem is over, this can lead to an ongoing stress response that is essentially no longer appropriate.
The hopeful news is that the brain has an extraordinary capacity to adapt and reorganize. With roughly 86 billion neurons and trillions of connections, the brain was once thought to be largely fixed — we now know this isn’t true.
Through self-directed neuroplasticity, it’s possible to retrain the stress response and restore more balanced brain function using specific, repeatable practices.
What I Did to Recover from CFS
My path to recovery was not linear and led me down many winding paths involving lifestyle changes, relaxing my nervous system, attending support groups (at first) and sometimes experiencing a worsening of my fatigue, especially after a higher than usual activity level. Nevertheless here is what I found worked best for me:
Pacing – Not Pushing Too Hard or Too Quickly
This goes for anyone experiencing chronic illness or medical conditions of any kind. Being realistic with yourself and knowing that it just takes time is key to allowing the nervous system to remain calm. It’s that sense of “rushing” to get better that creates agitation and the system and paradoxically, prolongs the healing process.
Mood Elevation
For anyone who’s experienced a chronic illness or prolonged injury, you know that mental health is paramount. In fact, there really is no separation between the mind and the body insofar as how they interact. I found it extremely useful to refocus my attention on things that bring me joy. Whether planning a trip (even if it wouldn’t happen for several years) or researching things that interest me, instead of searching the web for more fear-based info about chronic fatigue syndrome or related conditions. The general rule I came up with for myself was “never look at what you’re trying to avoid” and continuously refocus on the things that make you feel joyful.
Finding Flow
Finding flow is all about allowing yourself to be absorbed in an activity. Whether reading a book or doing some form of arts and crafts project. Many of the people recovering from CFS and depression using the re-origin program now experience great improvements when they allow themselves to pursue those things that used to interest them as children, but perhaps as adults, they never got around to fulfilling. One of our members, Debra, took up playing the violin in her 70s. Another, Mira, started dancing. What have you always wanted to do but never done because you didn’t think it was “useful”? – When it comes to healing and recovery, or just living a joyful life, nothing could be more productive than engaging in fun activities.
Positive Visualization
A recent study from Ohio University shows that dwelling on stressful events can increase inflammation in the body[1]. The study found that people had an increase in C-reactive protein when they ruminated on stressful events and that levels of bodily inflammation actually would drop rapidly when they simply placed their attention elsewhere.
At re-origin, we practice a very specific type of visualization that has been cultivated with the help of our scientific advisory board that is meant to disarm the threat reflex and calm the nervous system concerning the triggers that would otherwise agitate us. You can learn more about this visualization exercise within the re-origin community.
Celebrating Small Wins
Learn helplessness[2] is a phenomenon that’s all too commonly experienced by someone who’s been ill for a long time. To combat this, I used the science of small wins[3]. I did this by choosing one tiny action that I could take each and every day, in my case, it was taking one deep breath, and then celebrating the fact that I did that one thing. When you’ve been struggling with CFS or any debilitating condition for a long time, it doesn’t matter what you do, it simply matters that you do. Celebrating small wins will create a positive association between small actions and the rewarding feeling you get from accomplishing them.
Neuroplasticity “Brain Retraining”
While all those things listed above serve to alter the brain and nervous system in favorable ways, the most important thing I learned on my journey back to health. What ultimately made the difference for me was having a clear, structured approach to daily brain retraining. When you’re already overwhelmed by illness, simplicity and consistency matter.
This is why I created the re-origin program — to offer a guided, step-by-step process that removes guesswork and cognitive overload, allowing your nervous system to change gradually and sustainably.
It isn’t going to happen overnight, but just like training any muscle, if you show up every day and do a little bit of the neuroplasticity training exercises, then your brain literally has no choice but to change. Change, after all, is your very nature.
You are NOT Stuck!
The biggest takeaway and thing that I learned is that your body and mind actually have all of the resources internally that they need in order to be healthy and calm.
The brain is extremely sophisticated and if it’s reestablished, as this chief orchestrator of all organs, systems, neurotransmitters, and chemicals in the body that affect how we feel and function at any moment, it can restore homeostasis to your system – that state we know as perfect health.
Doubling Down on the CFS Research
My research and experience since then, have led me to believe that everyone is capable of retraining their brain and resetting their system. It won’t happen overnight, but for anyone willing to put in the time and take the small daily steps, I’ve teamed up with a group of Ph.D. Neuroscientists and clinicians to create re-origin: a science-based, self-directed neuroplasticity program that you can do yourself.
Whether it’s ongoing physical pain that you’ve been feeling, anxiety, or exhaustion without any clear apparent cause. I want to assure you that there is a cause, and most importantly, there’s a solution. It’s not “all in your head”, but it might be stemming from your brain. And fortunately, that’s good news because the brain is really good at adapting and changing itself. And through the right techniques and exercises, you can actually rewire the brain to produce a response that’s more pleasant and more advantageous for overall health, healing & happiness.
There is Hope for Healing
Recovery is possible, even when it feels far away. Many people who once felt trapped in chronic fatigue and related conditions have gone on to restore calm, resilience, and full participation in life. If you’re ready to take the next step, you can learn more about the re-origin program here.
